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The Pitfalls of Internet DatingBy Creative(54,965)   Posted Tuesday, February 19, 2008 View All Blog Posts submitted by Creative I have written quite a few posts on Internet Dating but this one is more of a cautionary note detailing some of the pitfalls.
One of the pitfalls being that for some, the unending supply of flirting opportunities, may be more attractive than committing to a real life relationship with one person.
If you are new to Internet dating then you may think that generally when you meet your match and you have you have mutually agreed to be exclusive (after a few tentative dates) that you will sign off the dating site and delete your profile. Think again!
I have known some who remain a client of the site, allegedly to keep in touch with friends. But as we all know, there are other methods of communication for 'friends' which can be more easily achieved off a dating site, such as msn, email, skype, text, and even that old fashioned thing called a home phone.
The reality is of course that the men and women stay on the sites so that they are the happy recipients of what can amount to fan mail. Little flirtatious messages in their inboxes, invites for more dates and in some cases saucy pictures. It's a big boost to their ego.
Another pitfall is that with the whole world at your inbox, you may always wonder if you have found the 'one' or if the one is the recent face that joined the site today. Perhaps she or he is more suitable, shares more interests, has more chemistry? It's a case of being spoilt for choice.
More obvious pitfalls of course include all the unsavories that find their way to your profile. But these people are just as likely to be around in real life too so I won't dwell too much on this aspect. If you receive unpleasant messages or pictures you can always block and delete and if you've never given out your personal details (you never should) then that should be the end of them!
My advice is that if you find someone and you've committed to dating each other exclusively, that you insist those dating site accounts are deleted. If your partner can't stay off the site, then ask yourself why a dating site is more attractive than a real date?
Note: This post was inspired by someone I knew over a year ago, who couldn't stay off dating sites even when he had a regular girlfriend. This wasn't the main reason for their break up but it was instrumental. The male acknowledged his addiction after the break up but to this day nothing has changed. But that is the nature of addiction!
This Blog Post has been read 229 times. Posted to ProBlogs.com on Tuesday, February 19, 2008 View other posts by Creative Comments on this blog post: Bobby from NYC: (79 days 16 hours ago.) There is no doubt that dating sites can be a tremendous ego boost and there's nothing wrong with that. However, if you have found your partner in real time, then not deleting the dating site profiles is not only a red flag, but a "Run as far and as fast as you can!" The exceptions being that if it's also a social site, there are more than a few, then there is a friend and social connection with that site. The couple may even know some of the same online friends. One of the big problems that I didn't see you touch on was the long distance relationships. Unfortunately, these relationships are notorious breeding grounds for multiple profiles and flirting. How can your partner really know what's going on? Sad but true that in many LDR's there's more of a need for ego stroking and the cyber space to make it happen. Bobby http://bobbyboys.blogspot.com/ Leave a Public Comment or Question: If you want to find your one true love - take a chance! my best beer friend What causes Jealousy - Green eyed monsters! My ABC's to CELIBACY Long Distance relationships- can they work? How to spot a Gold Digger from 20 paces! A Shattered Family Tree |
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